Over recent years I have become more aware and concerned with the treatment of women and the double standards in comparison to men. Don’t get me wrong, both men and women experience a lot of pressures and discouragement from society but here I am going to focus on females as this is what I can relate to more closely. For far too long women have been conditioned to be ashamed of their body and what they want to do with it. Its considered wrong if it does not fit into society’s category of the ideal woman in terms of appearance and attitude.
Recently, I saw a TED talk by Chimamanda Ngozi titled ‘We Should All Be Feminists’ in this she said we teach girls shame, to close their legs and to cover themselves. We make girls feel as though they should be guilty for being born female. This causes girls to grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow to be women who cannot say what they truly think. This is an unfortunate cycle that carries on through generations and this change needs to happen starting within households, where girls are traditionally taught to care more about cooking, cleaning and pleasing which is to shape them into being “good” wives rather than for them self. Girls should be able to feel as though they can be themselves, do what they want with their bodies and feel confident in doing so. Whether it being them shaving off their hair, tattooing their bodies or wearing “provocative” clothing. If a girl wants to wear clothing with horizontal stripes but a fashion magazine says it does not fit her body type, should she care? No! She should wear what she likes and feel comfortable in doing so. Females existence is not about how desirable society finds them, its about how they feel.
Written by Tiana Nelson